Things that make you CRAZY about your partner!!

You are either one of those people reading this that says nothing is wrong with my partner or you are one that has a list of 113 things you want to vent about...you know who you are! Well, let’s get it off of our chest…and be honest,  because if you can constructively realize what bothers you and how you may even be part of that problem things might get a little bit better! Want your partner to walk in your shoes then click here  (Plunder Guide).

My husband likes to think that nothing about me makes him crazy, but I know this is just not possible!! When I asked him, he said I am wonderful and that nothing makes him crazy. However, although I applaud him for his sweet remarks, I know he was just trying to not make a mountain out of a molehill. Smart guy! I can get defensive and if he said something that makes me feel inadequate he knows that I will try to defend why I am a certain way, and well one thing leads to another. So the key is to humbly look at the “flaw” and try to find out why your partner feels this way and how you and him/her are both the problem potentially.

I tend to clutter things…make piles around the house…as he calls it. Now don’t get me wrong, we have a clean house and an “uncluttered” house but there a few areas here and there that have stacked up mail, bags, etc.  Unfortunately it’s not usually a problem until it becomes BIG! With that said, I see now why this bothers him. However, in my defense, I am sooo busy and tired that I have a habit of getting lazy.  The point is that we are both to blame.  I did not know his feelings until asked, and he might need to help me more around the house. The point is, unless a problem is confronted, peacefully, we cannot read each other’s minds. Ultimately the things that make you crazy about your partner might stay that way until it can be maturely discussed and a plan put into motion, with both parties willing to make an effort.

•  Ask each other what makes them crazy …in a kind way. Never start with “You” but instead       “I feel like ___when you do ___” Remember it is not what you say but how you say it!!
•     Be open and receptive to constructive criticism
•     Figure out why those things are happening be it your short comings and/or theirs
•     Devise a plan of action to be proactive in doing those “crazy” things less

He is almost perfect in my eyes, but I cannot stand the cups he leaves around the house. Spit cups from his Skoal, water cups, etc. I think he might use 4-10 a day! Although, in the scheme of things, if this is as bad as it gets, I’m really lucky! J

Our house is not like this one....but hey maybe this will help one of you out there! 

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Our dog's NASTY habits!

Welcome to my first post in Baggage Drop! It is a place to lighten your load. Honestly, it’s therapy for the soul. Ask me a question, get advice, give advice, make a statement, voice a concern, vent, laugh, cry, and just drop your baggage off to help make your day go easier! It’s kind of like free therapy. I’m no expert but consider myself a “baggage handler”. I too suffer from maintaining a heavy load and sometimes feeling like I’m going to go crazy.  So, welcome to my world and thank you for allowing me into yours!

One of my biggest frustrations lately has been that one of our dogs, a recent Pomeranian rescue, will pee on her bed and eat her poop!! The weird thing is that she will go outside and on her pee pad for days, and then all of a sudden decides that she would like to cause me more work and soak our lovely dog beds that all of the dogs share…with hot steamy yellow liquid goodness! This confuses me. And then she acts proud of it…as if she deserves a treat. Please tell me what I am missing!? To make matters worse, she then poops and eats it.  I am providing them with great Dick Van Patton food and treats, as well as hefty food portions, and yet she still devours those brown logs.   One day I came downstairs to see her licking her lips. I asked her “what are you doing??” and she knew that I knew…so she immediately sat on the remaining morsels.  Ugh!!

I have tried to put some very bad tasting pet store approved powder in her food to deter her from this nasty habit, only to find that she still somehow likes the taste…or she is just hungry.  I have also taken advice to put her bed next to her pee pad so that she doesn’t have to walk far, as sometimes I think she’s afraid of our hard wood floors.  But, lo and behold, she then goes across the room to empty her bladder in the path of our walking.  Maybe she’s being defiant…but she looks so sweet!! And she really is a doll!

So this is my baggage for the day. I will continue on my journey to find the solution to this problem.  If you have one please write, email, Facebook or tweet me to help in this nasty habit battle.  And I thought my husband’s habit of nicotine was bad…at least he doesn’t eat his poop and pee at my feet!!

THE CULPRIT

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