You are either one of those people reading this that says
nothing is wrong with my partner or you are one that has a list of 113 things
you want to vent about...you know who you are! Well, let’s get it off of our chest…and be honest, because if you can constructively realize what
bothers you and how you may even be part of that problem things might get a
little bit better! Want your partner to walk in your shoes then click here (Plunder Guide).
My husband likes to think that nothing about me makes him
crazy, but I know this is just not possible!! When I asked him, he said I am
wonderful and that nothing makes him crazy. However, although I applaud him for
his sweet remarks, I know he was just trying to not make a mountain out of a molehill.
Smart guy! I can get defensive and if he said something that makes me feel
inadequate he knows that I will try to defend why I am a certain way, and well
one thing leads to another. So the key is to humbly look at the “flaw” and try
to find out why your partner feels this way and how you and him/her are both
the problem potentially.
I tend to clutter things…make piles around the house…as he
calls it. Now don’t get me wrong, we have a clean house and an “uncluttered”
house but there a few areas here and there that have stacked up mail, bags,
etc. Unfortunately it’s not usually a
problem until it becomes BIG! With that said, I see now why this bothers him.
However, in my defense, I am sooo busy and tired that I have a habit of getting
lazy. The point is that we are both to
blame. I did not know his feelings until
asked, and he might need to help me more around the house. The point is, unless
a problem is confronted, peacefully, we cannot read each other’s minds. Ultimately
the things that make you crazy about your partner might stay that way until it
can be maturely discussed and a plan put into motion, with both parties willing
to make an effort.
- Ask each other what makes them crazy …in a kind way. Never start with “You” but instead “I feel like ___when you do ___” Remember it is not what you say but how you say it!!
- Be open and receptive to constructive criticism
- Figure out why those things are happening be it your short comings and/or theirs
- Devise a plan of action to be proactive in doing those “crazy” things less
He is almost perfect in my eyes, but I cannot stand the cups
he leaves around the house. Spit cups from his Skoal, water cups, etc. I think
he might use 4-10 a day! Although, in the scheme of things, if this is as bad
as it gets, I’m really lucky! J
Our house is not like this one....but hey maybe this will help one of you out there!
Our house is not like this one....but hey maybe this will help one of you out there!
Hello Casey,
ReplyDeleteThis blog is awsome with very good points, i will ask my boyfriend the same thing like come on tell me what drives you crazy about me and he will say nothing i love you your perfect and i will think the same thing like come on that is not possible, he has the same habits as your husband in leaving the cups all over the place or when he eats in the room he will leave the dishes everywhere or throw his clothes around it makes me want to scream at times lol